There are several things that ‘normal’ people do and say that annoy me, I know that most of the time they don’t mean to though (Well most of the time, I have had some people say some pretty hurtful stuff to me in the past).
#1 Complaining to me about having the ‘worst headache in the world’. – Well firstly you don’t have the worst headache in the world you have a headache. If anyone gets to be in the running for worst headache in the world, it’s me and other people with chronic headache conditions. They don’t know how lucky they are to get a normal headache, I would kill for one. They then continue to complain for the entire duration of their headache which lasts a few hours or a day maybe. I never get to complain, and if I do I get labeled as attention seeking. They even have the luxury of being able to take over the counter medications like paracetamol or ibuprofen, which will decrease their pain or take it away completely. I don’t have that luxury at all I just have to suffer. Then there’s the fact that they can go to sleep and they will probably wake up without a headache. I go to sleep and I still wake up with a headache every god damn day. They just don’t seem to appreciate how lucky they are.
#2 People saying I have headacheS. – This is wrong I don’t get headaches I have one headache. Saying headaches would imply that it comes and goes. Which is wrong! I’ve had ONE headache for over 3 and a half years, it never goes.
#3 People saying I am pretending or exaggerating. – Yes believe it or not I have actually had people say this to me. One was a close friend who accused me of it. Which really upset and angered me. Who in their right mind pretends to be in pain for years, what sort of person would do that. More to the fact who would want to, no one in their right mind would.
#4 People saying I shouldn’t be depressed cause other people have it worse. – Yes there are other people that have worse conditions and people living in poverty etc etc etc, but should that mean my problems matter any less. That I have no right to be depressed because I’ve been in pain for years. Who wouldn’t get depressed or slightly depressed if they were living in pain for years on end. It’s a path many people with chronic pain/illness go down.
#5 The classic ‘but you don’t look sick’ line and ‘you’re too young to be sick’ line. – Most illnesses are invisible, just because I don’t look like I’m in pain all the time doesn’t mean I’m not. I actually try to put on a good front to hide my pain, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there. And as for the age thing, just because I’m young doesn’t make any difference.
#6 ‘Take some paracetamol’. – Seriously now don’t you think that was the first thing I tried when my headache first started. If it worked I wouldn’t be in this situation.
#7 ‘My (insert distant relative here) had headaches and tried this (insert obscure treatment here) and it worked for them. – If you’ve heard of it then I’ve probably tried it.
#8 ‘You’re in pain because you’re depressed.’ – I can’t even begin to explain how much this sentence annoys me. You’ve got it the wrong way round! I wasn’t depressed before I got a headache, I was depressed after and it took a few months of constant pain to get me there as well. The pain causes my depression not the other way around!
#9 ‘It’s all in your head’ – Just because you can’t see my pain and it’s not visible doesn’t mean it’s not there.
#10 ‘You’re so lucky you don’t have to go to school/work and get to spend all day in bed’ – Wow really?! I’d give anything to be able to go to school or work. You don’t know how lucky you are to be able to do that.
So there is the top 10 things that annoy me.