‘You look better’

Is it me or does anyone else hate it when people say that you’re looking better? 

I get this all the time, people saying that I’m looking better. But I don’t feel better at all, nothing has changed in that respect. Several of my friends in Dubai who I’ve seen since I’ve been back have said I’m looking better and good and stuff. I think the main reason why they said it is because I look different, my hair has finally all grown back from when I lost over half of it due to a horrible medication side effect. And I’ve also lost a lot of weight since I left. So in that respect I am looking good. And I’m glad when people say ‘Wow Sian you’ve lost so much weight’ or ‘Sian! Your hair has all grown back and looks good’. I’m actually happy with my weight and hair again finally so it is nice when people notice it. But I hate it when people say that I’m looking better because I’m not better at all, I’m far from it. And it really annoys me when people say that. I get it from my mums friends in England as well. I know I should probably take it as a compliment, but when you are suffering from an invisible illness no one can see that you’re sick and in pain so it really annoys me when people say I’m looking better because I’m still as ill and in pain as ever. It’s like if you don’t look sick then you’re not sick. And that’s the problem with invisible illness’ no one can see them so to a lot of people it’s like they’re not there at all. 



7 thoughts on “‘You look better’

  1. I know exactly what you mean. I thought I was the only one who was annoyed by this. When people say it to me and I get so annoyed because it’s like how am I supposed to respond to that? It makes me feel like they think one day I will magically be better and my symptoms will all just disappear… I wish!
    Hang in there.

  2. I know exactly what you mean. I get that all the time. Just saw the report that the insurance doctor wrote about my visit and he said I looked healthy and bright and cheerful.Yes I looked bright and cheerful that day because my fog was clearer and my pain levels lower than they had been in months, but that doesn’t mean I felt healthy. I was happy and accepting of where I was, that’s all!

  3. I can completely relate to this! I get on days that I wear more makeup than usual, and I can’t help but think how awful I must look when I’m not made up. People base how you feel on how you look, and it’s hard to explain that it’s just not the case at all. There many out there that know what you’re feeling, and though it’s frustrating, it helps me to know that there’s others out there that feel the same. Though I don’t wish any pain on others, it’s just good to know I’m not alone at all.

  4. Agree.. My husband likes to tell me “You look like you feel better” My son tells him “No, mom is just great at faking it” I hate when people tell me I feel better. Its hard enough faking it. The last thing I need is them shoving it in my face…

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