When to reveal to people that actually you are sick?

I started college this week and so far it’s been great, everyone is really nice and so far I’ve been enjoying the four subjects I am taking for my Access course. I’ve had a busy week, consisting of going to college then coming home doing my homework and writing up notes and then going to taekwondo training, I haven’t had much free time which I’m somewhat okay with because I’m keeping busy and not having much time to stop and think about the pain, which so far has been behaving this week (other than Monday night where I was at a 9/10 all afternoon and evening, but it was my day off college so didn’t effect me in that way) other than that I have been averaging 5 or a 6/10 on the pain scale, which is a level of pain I can manage and still function with.

Something I am struggling with though is when and if I should reveal the nature of my condition to people. The course leader at my college knows about my headache and so do the nurses. And we had to write an introductory piece about ourselves in English yesterday so I wrote about my headache in there, so my English teacher will now know, I should probably tell the rest of my teachers but I don’t really know how to bring up such a topic. My pain does effect my studies, my concentration levels and my ability to function especially on a bad day, which so far hasn’t happened. But my flare ups can last for weeks and although I don’t cancel plans because of my pain and I try to go about my day as best and as normally as possible despite the pain being severe, but there will be some days where I just won’t be able to cope. Maybe I should send my teachers an email just explaining my situation, maybe that would be the best thing but I’m not sure.

And then I’m struggling with do I tell the people on the course about my headache, do I want people to know? I don’t want pity that’s not what I want and I suppose eventually I should tell people, though I’m not entirely sure how and when is the right time. I don’t think it’s something I want to reveal just yet, maybe I will when I know these people a bit better. They are all really nice and I’m sure they will be understanding but I’m terrified I will be judged on my pain and put people off from being friends with me. Which could sound mean of me to say because I know not everyone is like that, but it is something that concerns me. If anyone has any suggestions as to what they think I should do, I am open to them!!
It’s really nice to have something to do every day now, something to get up for, things to learn and a goal to work towards. For so long I haven’t had that because I couldn’t see any type of future for myself that I wanted.

Advertisements

2 thoughts on “When to reveal to people that actually you are sick?

  1. We find that having the instructors understand the complexity of the NDPH and provide literature for their knowledge gives them an insight as far as Lauren’s ability or non ability to perform on certain days bc of the day by day existence with varying pain levels. I find they are very supportive. Insofar as your new friends, you need not share you history right now. As you grow closer to the ones with whom you find you share the most in common, there will surely be a time you’re not feeling your best and it will be an opportunity to tell them about the HAs. This is your new you and beginning, so no need to bring the baggage into the new friendships. But there will be new friends hopefully that will want to give you encouragement and compassion when you’re having a tough day just like you will be there for them when they are having a rough day.

    • Thanks Debra. Yeah I’m going to tell all my teachers this week, just so they know so if I’m having a bad pain day or week or anything they are aware that because of that I may not be performing well.
      As for my new friends, yeah I’m not going to tell them for a while. I’ve also been hiding my scars so far because I don’t want anyone to know about that part of my life just yet, and don’t want people to make judgments about me before they even know me. Really enjoying college so far though!

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s