Stimulator re-turn on day.

I’ve been a bit lax with my posts lately and I’ve been meaning to write this post since last week, but it’s been bit crazy.

Last Thursday it was my 23rd birthday, I had a nice day with my family and a meal out in the evening with them and some family friends. Overall the day was quite good and I didn’t feel too miserable despite often feeling a bit disheartened every year I get older and I’m no better if not worse health wise.

On Friday I had my reprogramming appointment at the hospital in London to turn my stimulator on and onto the burst settings. I had a bit of a tube dilemma getting there and ended up having to run from the tube station to the hospital, only to get there to find that the rep from the stimulation company had been told to come at 11am instead of 10am like me and my nurse thought. It was okay though as I caught up with my nurse and told her my normal headache had gone back to baseline which is still bad but not as bad has it was when the stimulator was on however I still had the extra headache at the back of my head. She said that she would talk to my neurologist in the week and discuss what to do and let me know as she said that if I still had the second headache despite the stimulator being off then there is another problem going on, but she couldn’t comment on what that could b, understandably. We then had a bit of a laugh and a joke about things whilst we were waiting for the rep and I was filing in some headache diaries. She then asked if I had been charging my stimulator this past month and I hadn’t been because I presumed that because it was off I wouldn’t have to, apparently that’s not the case but nobody told me. Anyway it had enough juice ton do the reprogramming thankfully otherwise the whole trip to London would have been a waste of everyones time. The rep turned up and it took all of 5 minutes to turn it on and program it, this burst setting means I’m not meant to feel the stimulation at all and if I do I just turn it down but otherwise I don’t need to do anything.
I then headed for a quick lunch with Jacqui who ran the Rock Bottom event that I wrote about it my last post, which was really nice. And then headed home because I knew I desperately needed to charge my stimulator battery. By the time I got home my pain levels were quite high but I hoped it was because I had had a busy and stressful day going to London.

On Saturday I wen back up to London via my Grandparents house in Surrey with my Mum and sister as last year my sister bought me tickets to see the Harry Potter and the Cursed Child West End show for my birthday; it books a year in advance so the tickets were for this year. Anyway the show was absolutely fantastic, the best show I have ever seen, great storyline, great special effects and costumes, just utterly spell-binding. We stayed in London over night and then my sister flew back up north in the morning and me and my mum went to have lunch with my grandparents for mothers day. Me and mum then spent the afternoon and night at my mums best friends with her family and had a really lovely time with them. My pain levels throughout all this were still not good, however I still was thinking that it was probably due to having a busy few days. On Monday my Mum flew to Dubai to spend 3 weeks with my Dad and I drove back home.

I decided to ensure that I had a quiet few days this week to try and see if my pain eases and rule out the possibility that it’s actually worse because my stimulator has been turned back on. Unfortunately it’s still quite bad and I’m not feeling too optimistic. My nurse called me yesterday after speaking to my neurologist and he has said he wants to move my next appointment which was mid June forward to the 25th April instead. I’m pleased and thankful he is going to see me soon but I’m worried and concerned that it’s not going to be good news about my extra headache. I haven’t told them that my normal headache is worse again since the turn on of the stimulator as I don’t want to be too presumptuous about it. But I’ve said to myself I will give it till my appointment on the 25th and if it is still bad and has not improved I will be asking for it to be turned off and will be asking about removal of it.

To be honest I’m starting to feel more and more upset about the fact that I really don’t think this surgery is going to be a success and so far it’s just been a complete nightmare. I fought so hard to be able to get this surgery for me and everyone else on the list at the hospital. I know in my heart that despite now regretting having the surgery, I know that if I hadn’t have had it I would have always been wondering if this was my answer. But unfortunately I don’t think it is and I feel completely heartbroken about it. It’s left me worse than before I had it and I was not prepared for this. I struggle to find the words to explain fully about how disappointed and heartbroken I feel right now and I haven’t really told anyone about how I’m feeling about any of this. I’m also very very good at pretending I’m okay and not talking about how I actually feel so nobody is none the wiser.

Anyway keep you updated on the stimulator issues.

Wishing you a low pain day!

 

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Rock Bottom – rising from the darkness.

Last week I went to this fantastic event in London, all I knew about it was the title which is quite self explanatory and that it was being partly run by someone who has some chronic illness’. I was really nervous about going, I’m not very good socially with people I don’t know really well, but in the end I was so glad I didn’t chicken out and that I went because it was fantastic.

I arrived at where it was being held and there wasn’t that many people there yet, I greeted the people running it briefly and sat down anxious as hell. I ended up talking a lot to Jacqui  and Bash who were running it, turns out Jacqui has some of the same conditions I have so we really got on well and had a lot to talk about. She had advertised the event on the Mast Cell Activation Facebook group which is where I saw it, I was the only person in that group who came which struck me as odd actually as I think a lot of people in that group could have benefitted from coming.

The event started and it was basically Jacqui and Bash’s stories of how they hit rock bottom through a combination of trauma and illness and how they basically rose from the darkness and have taken steps to overcome it and move forward out of the darkness and on with their life. I won’t go into their stories, they’re not mine to tell but they were incredibly emotional, relatable and inspiring and I left feeling incredibly grateful that they had shared their story with me and very inspired to continue trying to get better myself.

I’m actually meeting up with Jacqui on Friday after I’ve had my stimulator reprogrammed, which should be really nice as she is lovely and we have a lot in common because of having some of the same conditions. So I’m excited to chat some more with her.

I am so glad I went out of my comfort zone to go to this event as just hearing their stories has really made an impact on me. So thank you Jacqui and Bash!

 

 

 

Can you be ‘fixed’ in 8 sessions of therapy?

Along with having my surgery in September I was given psychological support form the hospital I am at in London. At first it was a temporary psychologist whilst the ONS surgery service employed a psychologist to be on their team. I saw the temporary one for 4 sessions and it was going okay, and then I got moved to the new ONS service one. I’ve been with him since the start of the year and I’ve spoken about it on here a bit before.
At my first appointment he asked me what my goal was, and I replied to feel better. By better I didn’t necessarily mean my headache would miraculously disappear, though that would be lovely, instead I meant to feel less miserable all the time. We agreed with a set of 4 sessions before reviewing it.

To be honest in the beginning I wasn’t too keen on him and his approach, the sessions made me very anxious, still sometimes do, but my anxiety levels within the sessions have improved as I have got use to him and the approach. It’s been going okay, and I’ve become more aware of my emotions within the sessions, how I feel when I talk about certain things in my life and where I feel that feeling in my body. I have improved with time but I wouldn’t say I was any less miserable unfortunately. At the end of the initial 4 sessions I said I’d like to keep going and we agreed another 4 but then that would be the maximum they would be able to offer me. I know I won’t reach a goal of being less miserable, and I honestly don’t think that is possible in only 8 sessions, I also don’t think that most people with complex issues would be able to go from depressed to somewhat okay and ready to leave therapy in basically just over 8 weeks. I’ve been in therapy 7 years and I’m still not there. I know not everyones the same and people have different problems and yeah maybe 8 sessions would be enough for a small number of people, but for a lot it’s not and where do people go once they get discharged from their 8 sessions? It also makes me wonder why people wonder why we have a mental health crisis on our hands this day and age. With my experience with some NHS mental health care I completely understand it. People don’t get better, local mental health teams are often shocking, I know they are in my area, and then not enough therapy is offered (that’s if and when it is offered) so therefore people don’t get better. I get that the NHS is often overworked and understaffed and staff work really hard to look after patients, but often mental health care is lacking, trust me I know I’ve experienced it.

As I near the end of my 8 sessions I know I won’t cope well without therapy, so I’ll have to find an alternative. I also wonder if I will ever reach a goal of feeling less miserable, it seems like I’ve been trying for 7 years just to feel somewhat slightly better but I’ve never got there. I question whether being less miserable is possible for me, or whether I’m destined to just be the way I am for the rest of time? I actually feel like the total of 8 sessions I will have had will have been a waste of time when they can’t be continued to reap any long term positive effects. I’ll start again with someone else, maybe my old psychologist or maybe someone new and that could possibly mess up thought processes or effects the past 8 sessions have had because of another outside influence with different thoughts and ideas. What was the point in the past 8 sessions, because I feel that once they are over because they were so short term that they will have effectively been pointless and that frustrates me because I was improving.

I get that maybe short term therapy works for some people, but I believe that for people with chronic pain or illness, which influences so many aspects of your life they may need longer term work. Especially if they’ve been sick a long time, perhaps there isn’t much hope of their health ever improving. I’m sorry but how can 8 sessions fix how you feel about spending the rest of your life sick and in pain, as someone who knows first hand and fully admits that they need psychological help and support, for me I know it’s not possible for in 8 sessions to be fixed and ready to be discharged.

I pride myself with always being honest on here, and that’s my honest opinion.