Last weeks neuro appointment.

I wish I could tell you I had the guts to show my neurologist what I wrote in my last post, but unfortunately I chickened out and didn’t, which I’m annoyed about. I really want to send them what I wrote but I’m not sure I have the courage to do that either.

I felt physically sick with nerves before my appointment, though I do feel sick quite a lot now so maybe it was a combination of the nerves and the other problem that causes me to feel sick. My nerves were calmed by having a lovely chat with a woman in the waiting room which is like a room where people go in for day infusions, and she was getting one for her MS. She was really nice and talking to her helped me feel slightly more calm and was a bit of a distraction.
I saw my nurse first and there was so much I wanted to say but like always words failed me and the best I could come up with which kind of got straight to the point anyway was something along the lines of ‘I’m so fed up I want you to remove the stimulator.’ After a bit of a discussion with her I then waited till my neurologist could see me.
I saw my neurologist after a short while and to cut a long story short we decided to keep the stimulator turned off for 3 months, to get my pain levels back down to baseline before stimulator. At which point I will see him again where it will be discussed what to do next, maybe another small stimulation attempt which I’m really not keen on, or the only infusion I haven’t had. To be honest I just want removal, I want this nightmare over, and the last thing I want is for them to turn it back on and send me back into even more agony. But I don’t want them to think that I’m not trying, that this was all for nothing, that I’ve wasted their time and resources.
We then discussed my histamine intolerance issue and the medications he put me on the last time I saw him which really really helped for a couple of weeks, and then some of my symptoms started returning, and now I have hardly been able to eat in probably over 3 weeks now. He wants me to up some of my medications and see this Professor for this type of issue at a different hospital in London, so I’m going to be sorting that out as well. I’m really struggling with being unable to eat, and I feel incredibly unwell.

He asked me how I was doing, and I wish I had been able to go into some more detail than I did but I felt if I said more than I did I was going to have a massive breakdown and there were a lot of people in the room I really didn’t want everyone to see me like that. So I just said ‘no not good at all’. He asked me if I was still seeing my psych who is practically on my neuros headache team and I told him he had discharged me a few weeks ago because I reached the maximum amount of sessions he could offer me. My neuro said he would see if he could sort something out, I really hope he can. I wish I had been able to tell him how much I really am struggling, or even just have shown him my previous post, but me being the idiot I am was unable to do any of that, so he doesn’t really know how much I need some help. And as usual I hide everything with a smile, a laugh or some sarcastic comment so nobody knows just how badly I feel or how much pain I’m in.

 

What I wish I could tell my neurologist tomorrow…

I’m not good at expressing myself to people in person, I’m never able to say what I want to or need to. I’m much better at writing it down, what I want to say and how I feel. I’m seeing my neurologist tomorrow and this is what I wish I was able to tell him…

I don’t want you to think I haven’t given this enough of a chance or that I haven’t tried hard enough with it. I wasn’t expecting any sort of relief yet when I only had surgery 7 months ago, but I’m so much worse it’s unbearable and I know it should not be this way. I can feel that my pain/head/brain does not like what is happening to it when the stimulator is on, I can feel it and it’s even more agony than I’ve been use to for the past 7 years. And if that wasn’t bad enough an extra headache has been created at the back of my head, which was never there before and I don’t understand what has happened for it to be there, but it’s really very painful and I just wish it would go away. I wish I never had the surgery,  I wish I had listened to the people who said not to go through with it. However I’m the type of person who will try anything within reason if there is the slightest possibility it could result in some relief, and I know if I had not gone through with it I would always be wondering if this could have been my answer.
I don’t often complain to you Manjit, I don’t often complain to anyone, I usually hide my pain with a brave face, a fake smile, a laugh or a sarcastic comment, mainly because I don’t want anyone to see just how badly I feel and just how much pain I’m actually in. But this is me complaining, when the stimulator is on it causes me so much agony it’s becoming unbearable. And I’ll be completely honest, I don’t want you to turn it back on and reprogram me which will probably send me back into even more agony, I want you to keep it turned off and then swiftly arrange for removal. I’m in agony and I don’t know what more to ask for other than this and hope that I can return to what it was like before surgery, which was also agony but it wasn’t quite as bad as this. I know you’ve tried so hard to help me and I appreciate everything you have done to try and help me over the past 6 years I have known you, I appreciate it more than you know, you were the only neurologist I have ever seen that didn’t dismiss my pain, that listened to me, that cared enough to want to help and for that I will always be grateful. But I’m not sure I can keep going with this stimulator and how much extra pain it is causing me, I’m completely fed up and done with it and I honestly don’t believe that reprogramming it any different is going to change the extra pain it causes me when it’s on, I know my pain better than anyone, I know what it does not like and it does not like this, I wish so badly it did and I wish this could have been my answer for some relief, but I really don’t think it is.

I know everyone was worried about what would happen to me if surgery turned out not to help and where I would be mentally if that was the case. I wish I could tell you I was okay, or that I will be okay. But the truth is I’m not okay, I’m so very far from okay, I’m completely heartbroken and devastated about this and completely unsure of how I’m even going to be able to move forward from here, of how I’m going to cope with the rest of my life with this pain. I’m probably in one of the worst states I’ve been in and I’m probably beyond anyones help anymore. I’m 23 years old it’s been over 7 years since this started and I have no clue how on earth I’m going to survive the rest of my life with this pain, I don’t know how to deal with the fact I will probably never have any sort of relief, that all hope for that is gone. And I feel that if all I’m ever going to be is sick and in pain, then what really is the point anymore? 

I know I won’t be able to say this to you tomorrow, I’m not even sure I have the courage to show you this post, but maybe I will surprise myself.